What It Feels Like to Be IN LOVE
“When you really discover what it means to FULLY accept who you are, all aspects, then that, I would assert, IS the discovery of what love is. It’s really that simple.
It’s very easy as spiritual teachers and esoteric philosophers and poets to talk about love as though that is our nature, and I’m not denying that, but it’s one thing to know that okay, “I am love.” It’s another thing to experience “I AM love.”
The way I often use it for myself as an expression, as I say, “I am in love.” And people will often say, “Wow, that’s awesome. Congratulations!” And I’m like, “No, no, no, no, no.” Like, “I am in the energy, I am in the essence, I am bathing within the quality that is love itself.” Yes, of course, I love companionship, I love falling in love with other, that’s a fun experience. But to recognize that I am actually held by the essence of love itself, that is, I would say, not only a rare experience, it’s an anomaly to the norm, but I would assert, that it’s actually what we’re all here for.
It’s to awaken to the fact that I am held by the container of the essence of love itself, and until such time that I get that, I will invariably be seeking it through the adoration, the validation, or the reassurance of other, for which reason I will constantly be dependent on what they do or say, to the point that everything is now a perceived threat, and for that reason, I will perpetually be in a state of exhaustion, which is really a futile battle for me to overcome — the fact that I believe there’s fundamentally something wrong with me that’s not lovable. And therein lies the biggest pretense of all, that I somehow believe that there is something wrong with me, and I’m looking to the outside world to compensate for that or to reassure me otherwise. Which is, again, it’s a futile plight, because if that’s how I’ve defined myself, then it doesn’t matter how many millions of people might love me, until such time that I really get that for myself from myself, it’s all window dressing.
When people are always trying to lean into “positive vibes” or “good feelings,” they’re denying 50% of what it means to be human. Which is that you’re going to have, just by virtue of being a sentient being, you’re going to have a myriad of different feelings, some of which you might think aren’t great, or they’re negative, but to what degree can you be big enough, as a human being, to hold the space, the container of love, just like a really adoring mother does for her child — she allows all of it to be there. Of course she may have preference, but there’s no judgment of a child that’s just experiencing and self-expressing whatever’s going on. That is the container of love that I want to inspire, that I do inspire, for people to bring to themselves, such that they can make space for their humanity, warts and all.
Meaning, it’s not always going to be pretty, but that’s the nature of love. The very nature of love is such that it actually makes space for that which isn’t necessarily lovable. It’s easy to love all the parts of you that you like, or that you think are your greatest features or character traits, but where can you develop love for the part of you that you find to be imperfect, the part of you that you find to be flawed? That’s the very essence of what love means.
To make sufficient space for all parts of me, even those that my persona, my ego, are somehow belittling, berating, or judging, which is the antithesis of love.
That is why it’s beautifully designed that, by virtue of being human, we are flawed, we are imperfect. And if it weren’t for that, we wouldn’t understand what it means to develop true unconditional love.”
Source: This guy ⬇️
