The Map of Should

Transcend your program.

Living in love means living in the absence of “should.” Love is all-accepting, any “should” placed upon yourself, others, or the world is a conditioning of love to a particular state. Love permeates all matter. Living in love means embracing all matter as it is — because everything already is love. For this reason, the imposition of “should” upon any matter at all is absolutely pointless.

Notice where you are imposing “should” in your life… he should act this way, I should look like this, my boss should give me that, she shouldn’t have done that… all you are doing is believing the current state of matter is not lovable — it “should” be different — which is a laughably terrible waste of energy, because it already is lovable, you just haven’t let go yet.

Living in the absence of “should” is what it means to let go. Included in this process is the dropping of right and wrong. You only impose “should” because you think there is right and wrong. You think, most likely subconsciously, that there is a state that is worthy of love and a state that isn’t. This is how fear is born. You take a test in school, you get a bad grade, your parents berate you, your underdeveloped brain perceives this as love being withdrawn from you, so now you fear failing, as it means love will be denied. Love has been conditioned in your subconscious, because xyz is “wrong,” which introduces a “right,” which means you “should” be or act a certain way, which leads you into a chronic state of tension as you desperately search for that conditioned state where you will finally be enough. But it never comes, because the threat of “wrong” is always there, because you’ve been programmed to believe that wrong exists.

I would assert that 100% of the issues in your life stem from you believing something is wrong. You might notice that you go into the issues in your life and begin to defend that those things in your life are actually wrong! This is because there has been an identity structure constructed, based on your programmed beliefs. This is otherwise known as the “ego.” When you try to bring that structure down to truth (love), the ego fights, because it itself wants to survive. The ego doesn’t want to be killed, but it also doesn’t want to be healed. It wants to be held (by love).

Who would you be in the absence of thinking anything is wrong?

It is extremely difficult to go through childhood without love being conditioned at some point. At least, without you believing that love is conditioned. You might feel that pain is wrong, so whenever you feel pain (an inevitable sensation along the human journey), you feel shame and guilt, because the pain should be different. You might feel that fear is wrong, so whenever you feel fear, you feel shame and guilt, because the fear should be different. You might feel that mistakes are wrong, so whenever you make a mistake, you feel shame and guilt, because you shouldn’t have made the mistake, which leads to perfectionism. You might feel that anxiety is wrong, so whenever you feel anxious, you feel shame and guilt, because you shouldn’t be feeling anxious.

Look at the program of anxiety that’s been thrust upon humanity. Constantly, across all forms of media, you see anxiety being put down as “wrong.” People are suffering from anxiety, they say. Anxiety is on the rise, the news reports.

Let me ask you… is anxiety actually wrong? Fundamentally, is anxiety wrong? Is pain wrong? Is fear wrong? Is making a mistake wrong? If you say yes to any of those things, I would assert that you’re in the belief that being a human is wrong. It is the nature of a human being to feel anxious, pain, and fearful. It is the nature of a human being to make mistakes. It’s also the nature of a human being to feel joyous, happy, and euphoric. Should we chastise those as wrong too??

You’re not embracing your humanity. Everything you experience is part of your humanity. Stop attempting to control your nature as a human, it’s futile and exhausting.

Failing to embrace any part of your experience is a failure to live in love, because you’re living in “should.” And guess what? That’s not wrong, either. Because you’re already living in love, as you are made of matter. That’s precisely why you don’t have to do anything, you just have to be, which is impossible not to do.

You don’t have to drop the shoulds. You can believe things are wrong. It’s simply a lot more liberating to let go of the weight of believing that things have to be a certain way to be lovable. You don’t have to perform anymore. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be enough. You can let your flaws, your imperfections, your warts, and your pains hang out, fully. Have compassion for your experience. It’s okay to be human, dawg!

Here’s the Map of Consciousness:

This is really the Map of Should. At the very bottom, at the lowest level of consciousness, you see shame. Shame is the ultimate state of “should.” You feel things “should” be so different from what they are that you feel ashamed in your current state. A parent believes their kid should behave differently, so they shame them. Is it wrong to shame or to feel shame? No, but it is the lowest of vibrations.

At the very top of the map, at the highest level of consciousness, lies Enlightenment, which is the absolute dropping of should, right, wrong, and all concepts. It is the state of the newborn baby (a hint at your true nature), who does not know anything other than what “is,” and even that falls short of the truest essence. It is an ineffable state of pure consciousness.

Notice at the level of acceptance lies the predominant emotional state of forgiveness. How many people find forgiveness in Christ and find higher states of consciousness not soon after?

There’s more I want to share and there’s more I will share, Lord willing, but I’ll leave it at this for now:

“Should” is fake news. It’s a false imposition based on a limited set of beliefs that your ego wants to uphold. Cool, see through it with the truth: everything is. How could there be a should if “everything is” is the most enlightened state? Along that same truth, how could there be right and wrong, if everything is?

How could you have any truthful identity other than “I am” if everything is?